If God is the center of your marriage there is love,.......
1st. Corinthians 13 (1-7)
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels , but have not love: I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries; land all knowledge , and if I have a faith that can move mountains but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames ,but have not love. I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy , it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered ,it keeps no record of wrongs.”Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves. Meditate on this paragraph reflect on the words to help put love first.
When anger exist in a relationship it can turn to hate.The anger is there because your love language is not being acknowledged or communicated. There can be frustrations from other areas or times in your lives , which you are taking out on each other.